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tbh, I'd kind of like to change mine. I'm no longer where I was when I picked it. Some places make this easier than others -- Twitter and Wordpress were a doddle, but I think I'd have to make a new OKCupid profile entirely.

Sounds like a personal problem, to borrow from my metamour. What is it that you do, exactly? If it's even boring you, why are you doing it? (This applies equally to work and play.) Some spaces are gendered by tradition, but you can help break that tradition. I would welcome men to a sewing...

My responsibilities as a single woman are not much different from my responsibilities as a married one would be. About the only one I can think of is the "responsibility" to limit my sexual partners to one person, and I am trying to see how that's a social responsibility given the ways multiple...

Can I believe in fate and multiple perfect matches? :)

Things I will admit: Not all of the random contacts are a bad thing. Even though I seldom, if ever, meet dating material, sometimes I run into people who are genuinely nice and not looking to screw me in any sense of the word. One of those popped into my inbox last night. True nice guys are...

On a tired night, it goes like this. Him: hi I'm john. First of all, I think u are really very cute. I would realty like to get to know u and go from there. I'm a hard working, blue collar kind if guy. But I do well for my self. I have a cbr600rr and I ride it alot So how about we trade...

Your yammering is our listen-and-learn time. You have it so together, and so well-documented. I quote because I love! I'd love to trade war stories re: the patient thing. I blog about that at Refuge in Audacity from time to time -- I try not to get too depressing, but I also want the world to...

If you know what you want and you're willing to wait until it comes along, good on you. That's not so much idealism as having personal standards and needs in a relationship. The question then becomes "Can you handle being single until you find what you're looking for?", I suppose. The thing...

Has he got health insurance? If yes, can he get his ass into therapy already? I understand having issues from way back. I've had to deal with them or get professional help. It's not easy, but it's better than taking out his frustration on his partner. Who is YOU. And you matter, too. The...

The part I should've put first, huh? For someone whose primary is the English language, I really am terrible at autobiographical blurbs. You can call me Cass. I'm 26, poly, one of CielDuMatin's partners, and quite happy with our vee. We met four years ago at my first-ever poly meetup. I did...

Be annoyed all you like, but I raised the points I thought were valid. The situation with your child and his egg donor sucks so hard. I'm sorry she's behaving so poorly. I did not imply that you were turning your back on your son; I was merely inquiring as to what your plans were for him. As...

I love prescribed social gender roles. And by "love" I totally mean "hate with a burning passion". You hate your job, she hates hers. The deceptively simple answer is "change it up", but change takes major effort. So, your wife. What's her educational background? Would she be employable if you...

Is your husband still working 72-hour weeks? That puts a giant burden on you at home. I am not sure where you would be able to fit a third person into your lives, since he's working all the time and that leaves you minding the children by default. When all three of us were working full-time...

Tuppence from the peanut gallery: Loose correlation, not causation. Poly is not required for kink, nor is kink required from poly. This is one of my soapboxes -- I hate it when people conflate the two. So... you're monogamous, or at least monogamish (someone on here uses that as part of hir...

Welcome to the site! There is a section of the board dedicated to finding that/those special someone/s; you'll have better luck actually looking there. :) Uncle Sam appears to have kept you both stateside. You say you were in the military; has one or the other (or both) retired? How would you...

There's nothing wrong with doing what's comfortable for you, provided it's all above-board. Cheating, no. Deciding you'll try FWB with a view to learning to love others? Sure, whatever floats your boat. I also hear you on the panic disorder. Mine started the spring I was sixteen. I could...

From what I read, darning isn't much different from weaving, and I've been weaving on little cardboard looms since I was eight or nine. Am I far off the mark?

Things that make you go "Awwww!" Yes, my fellow secondaries, it is possible to have cute domestic moments with your partner even when you have separate households. His shirts won't fix themselves. Mind you, I'm old-fashioned about sewing. I believe we should know how to do it. Even my mother...

Were SSI more plentiful, and easier to get, I wouldn't be. ;) But I am trying to come 'round to your point of view and, from there, hers. Please be patient as I work through it! I should begin by saying that I don't expect to support others for a long time to come. The only sensible way for me...

Sometimes I would like to banish The Ethical Slut from the Approved Poly Reading List. So many morons use it as an excuse to do whatever they want. At the very least, a title change would put off the utter gobshites.