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Dust and Fish How are you guys any progress to report?

I was elated that there is someone that mirrors my actions.:cool: Who loves you baby!! I must admit I had to compose myself first! Laughs nervously we are more alike than you think. I will respond to this later. ;)

I didn't rape him - Yu are using really preposterous analogies. Nice try though. My H is can somehow be assertive and tell me he does not want to make love but he is completely powerless when it comes to asking me not to spoon him and cup his testicles? He can tell me no babe I don't want a...

You can do it use Fish and Dust as a model. :D

emotional abuse Maybe you are not saying I have raped my H. But please clarify that I have not raped my H when you say those type of statements. I have gone to great lengths to wait about even asking for sex cuz after all who wants to be turned down. When we sleep I am usually touching him...

At first I just lost sex but over the years I lost some intimacy. If it is anything that is done in the bedroom, sorry to say I have lost it. Hot tub, massage, touch, kissing, even fellatio, sex. I used to get naked and wait till he was asleep so I could snuggle. I purchased several fucking...

Thank you Marathoner, He is going through a rough patch right now so I feel the need to hide sex with MM during the day. We talked about therapy and how I didn't make this choice until I left no stone unturned. He agreed but really said nothing of substance so he is clamming up. He wanted to go...

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Thanks for your support. You are an awesome blossom!! <3

Roller Coaster It is a roller coaster ride... I don't know what is ahead... a ride I will never forget ... a ride where your guts wind up in your throat at times... a ride when I think am I ever going to stop sinking... sometimes arms waving in the air with new joy... I grit my teeth and hold...

If a minister hadn't sold me on the idea of Poly, I would be stuck in a marriage without sex. H may leave me but I for sure left no stone unturned. I can say I did everything possible to save the marriage and will do more.

Well said NYC, It was good information for me too. TY

STD Paperwork I found several ppl that had herpes just by requiring STD paperwork. When I pushed for their paperwork they confessed to having herpes. One seemed responsible the other not so much. I learned a lot very quick. No one really asks they just trust. I never really had a problem...

Tonight order your favorite take out and make sure you have a comedy or the like on DVD. What can you do that is luxury? Maybe sleep with a silicone toy. Is it distasteful to say have fun with yourself? It can be masturbation night.:o

I hope he gets into the planning phase. He needs something to look forward to. Something that gives his mind a little peace. He may be going in that direction sooner or later. If not in real life maybe in his mind. Visualization helped me bring my goal to life. What is going to move him toward...

switch focus I am just throwing it out there. I guess I am asking the group- would it help him to "Eff the pain away" like the song. Could another lover help him to cope? What is gonna help you put your brain on the shelf? Maybe some sort of switch of focus. What if your focus became how many...

Thank you for all the help. Wow I have a lot to cover. I can do it all in time. He refused counseling but agreed to triangulation where she asked me questions to ask him then report back with body language and answers.

Marathoner we are on the same page... Marathoner thanks for all your wisdom- sorry he only peck kisses now and I will try anything once I break through. The combination with reassurance is a rockin idea. -In the morning he finds me and gives me a hug and kiss good bye. -He comes in I give him...

wow Dusty I have a lot to learn from you. Dust You are way ahead of me I have not gotten past the first chapters in "Love in Abundance" Defining the relationship together and setting boundaries. He did not want to read it. I defined it and told him he was my number one. He is not the curious...

Thank you for making me think... yes to both. I don't want to hurt him on purpose. My fantasy is for him to give me permission and cheer me on. I love him very much. Yes I feel more alive, quite frankly at the time, I just wished I was gone, I thought it would be great if I could just never...