Recent content by Tomcat27

This situation with my partner did hurt my feelings. The fact that she was defensive, and criticized me for being hurt shows me a side of her that could perhaps be associated with a bigger underlining issue. I didn't need her to apologize or say out loud "I was wrong", I just wanted her to...

Thanks for the replies. It's weird how much easier things are to process after hearing from random strangers (although like minded) about such issues. One of the biggest things for me is my concern for her safety and health. I'm kind of a protective type, not overprotective to the point I'm...

My partner of 5 months recently told me that she had unprotected sex with one of her partners that she had not seen in over a year. I asked if she had a discussion about the last time he was tested, and whether or not he has had unprotected sex with any of his other partners and she said no...

OKC can be really frustrating for me, especially since I feel like I can't really describe myself in an online profile. My partner gets all sorts of messages, and she is constantly on her phone sifting through them. She told me that she has met some great men on the site, and I kind of want to...

I am just over four months into a new poly relationship, and I am dealing with an issue that is something perhaps others have experienced. I'll start by putting the situation into context, as we all know all things poly are sometimes complicated and involve many details, so please excuse my long...

This whole thread has been so helpful, because I am the type to avoid labels, but totally can relate to the relationship anarchy idea. I recently started a new romantic relationship with one of the people who share the house I live in and she defines herself as "poly". but I'm thinking...