Recent content by Natja

Urgh, I would just feel SO much pressure, horrible.... Maybe if she had a bad marriage maybe she just has had ENOUGH of masculine energy? Maybe it is not a strong man she needs but a soft woman? Maybe she will never need a strong man to be safe? Just so much projection I can't even believe...

Why not just leave them to the relationship they have? It is clearly respectful and loving, pushing your own agenda on them just because of a fantasy is pretty selfish IMHO.

Always new people innit?

Agree with LoveBunny in that there seems to be a bit of a monogamist mentality here with the husband replacing one 'wife' in his heart with a 'new wife', But think hard on it OP, if this is how he deals with a serious issue in his marriage ie emotionally freezing her out, than do you feel he is...

Your friend probably has a mono mindset that sees something safe and familiar with the status quo. The standard paradigm is all.

Agreed. And a lot of people only realise that they are couple fronted after they have changed their whole lives also, how can that NOT be hurtful if you have sacrificed so much? Of course it is hurtful and abusive behaviour. How many women have lost so much because couples have given them the...

Just remember we had a couple of other 'Distressed Unicorns' a year or so ago that disappeared and never came back, their situations almost the same as this one, remember the one who couldn't go anywhere because they lived in the middle of no where and they did not give her a car to use....I did...

Sources in the XY world..... :p I think there is a porn review panel show somewhere....there MUST be, I insist on it...

Nope, don't believe a word of it. Sorry.

Also, I know this is personal and I am by no means inferring that other people have this problem with it but...by being SO couple focused and couple centric. You really are not giving the impression AT ALL that any other person would ever be able to be anything but an optional extra to you both...

Are you even sure whether he knew about you? DADT relationships are not for everyone and certainly not a sure fire recipe for avoiding jealousy. The OP appears to be on the right track.

Porn.

Urgh....SO much male insecurity, competition and sexual hangups regarding women being dirtied/soiled by other men in that mindset. :(

I would love it, it is what I really want in life but there are just SO many other variables that might it seem unlikely ever to happen alas. My only experience was not good at all but there were reasons for it that I would NOT be repeating.

That is exactly it Greenacres, it is the thing which drives me most crazy.